Thursday, July 06, 2006

winning the heart of the husband

"How to win the heart of husband?"



10. Use your `Fitnah' to win the heart of your husband
All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with. Use the beauty Allah - Azza wa Jal - has bestowed you with to win the heart of your husband.

9. When your husband comes home, greet him with a wonderful greeting
Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitely dressed wife, a dinner prepared with care, children clean and sweet smelling, a clean bedroom – what would this do to his love for you? Now imagine what the opposite does to him.

8. Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn and try to imitate them
The Qur'an and Sunnah describe the women in Jannah with certain characteristics. Such as the silk they wear, their large dark eyes, their singing to their husband, etc. Try it, wear silk for your husband, put Kohl in your eyes to `enlarge' them, and sing to your husband.

7. Always wear jewelry and dress up in the house.
From the early years, little girls have adorned themselves with earrings and bracelets and worn pretty dresses – as described in the Qur'an. As a wife, continue to use the jewelry that you have and the pretty dresses for your husband.

6. Joke and play games with your husband.
A mans secret: they seek women who are lighthearted and have a sense of humor. As Rasul Allah – sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam – told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh.

5. Thank your husband constantly for the nice things he does. Then thank him again.
This is one of the most important techniques, as the opposite is a characteristic of the women of hellfire.

4. An argument is a fire in the house. Extinguish it with a simple `I'm sorry' even if it is not your fault.
When you fight back, you are only adding wood to the fire. Watch how sweetly an argument will end when you just say sincerely, "Look, I'm sorry. Let's be friends."

3. Always seek to please your husband, for he is your key to Jannah.
Rasul Allah – sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam – taught us that any women who dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall enter Jannah. So .. please him.

2. Listen and Obey!
Obeying your husband is Fard! Your husband is the Ameer of the household. Give him that right and respect.

1. Make Dua to Allah to make your marriage and relationship successful.
All good things are from Allah. Never forget to ask Allah ta'ala for the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this Dunya and continues on - by the Mercy of Allah ta'ala - into Jannah.


And Allah knows best

3 Comments:

Blogger Umm Yaqub Bilal said...

Masha'Allah what an excellent post... Ive deff made notes from that! The advice was realistic and true and im sure will be a great benefit to any and every marriage! May Allah put Barakah and Love and Mercy in all our marriages ameen!

07 July, 2006 01:47  
Blogger redstar said...

So women should be doormats for their men?

How about a post telling us what Muslim men should do to keep their wives happy?

13 July, 2006 00:22  
Blogger humblemuslimah said...

I am not a doormat for my husband in Islam we are thought of as helpmates for each other . Islam gave women rights over 1400 hundred years ago ,whereas in the west women still did not have the right to her own wealth till the 19th century . Islam recognises that the sexes are different but each have their own rights and responsiblties.

Men are encouraged in The sayings of the prophet MUhammad (peace be up on him) To treat their women folk well and kindly, and he was the ebst of all examples.

27 July, 2006 10:49  

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